There have been several posts that I have started these past few weeks but have not posted them because I didn't quite know exactly where I stood with some things, but now my mind is clearer and more at ease. I have felt so many different emotions these past few weeks and have come to realize so much about myself and about what is important to me. I cannot even believe how time has passed this summer now that school is almost upon us. I feel that I have had about 1 years worth of experiences within about 3 months. At the start of this summer I wrote in one of my posts that I was not going to be afraid to take a chance on anything just because it is an unknown territory. This was the story of my summer of 2011.
It has been so weird to see how I act in different situations especially if they are new while then trying to figure out why that is. It is all part of one amazing word called "Learning". It seems that you could come to learn more about yourself by taking on 1 new experience than if you were to experience a stagnant life ten times over. Is there chance for disappointment and frustration?...... of course but does it prevent you from gaining the growth you were meant to experience.....Never! One of the most important things I have learned this summer is the importance of words. Words can make or break anything and the absence of them as well can make anything very difficult. I feel like sometimes words have a mind of there own and make speaking as well as understanding them very confusing. However at the same time it is amazing how words through one simple conversation can help you pinpoint exact thoughts and feelings that you have tried to convey a dozen times before.
I think that one of the greatest pitfalls is that people over complicate things in communication. Yes communication is vital but it is also simple and when it comes to the point that we over think things, then it can become harder to have a normal flowing conversation.
There are more types of communication than I could have ever imagined, both spoken and unspoken and it takes work and patience to see that both spoken and unspoken communication are conveying the same message at the same time.
An analogy comes to mind, weird perhaps.... but it makes sense in my head. Right now from my window I am watching one of the biggest rainstorms that I have seen in a long while and I love it! What makes a good rainstorm? Think about it, would you enjoy a rainstorm half as much if the sun were still shining or if you weren't able to enjoy the sounds of the thunder, the whistle of the wind and the flicker of lightning? Well I wouldn't =) . It takes all of these simple ingredients working together at the same time to be able to appreciate and enjoy a perfect rainstorm and without one of those elements, it just is not the same. So it is with communication and relationships ( Yes I said the "R" word ). Without one important element it always feels like something is missing. And you have to find the courage to not only see what that missing element is, but why its missing.
Now all there is to do is to keep moving forward and remind myself of what I always say ...... "there is always room for adjustment and improvement". I think that everyone has the tools to make this crazy world of communication a great experience. We just need to come to a deeper understanding of ourselves in order to use those tools to construct something amazing.
